The Heart Speaks Words That Minds Will Never Write

Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me

Actions speak louder than words

A picture paints a thousand words

People find it strange that some of my friends don’t really speak my mother tongue  and neither do I speak theirs. They use to ask, ‘Maria, but how do you communicate with them?  How is a friendship possible between you, if you can’t speak?’

But the truth is, they are some of the best friends that I could ever dream for. Instead of sitting and chatting all day, we experienced things together. And because we experienced together, we grew so close. We showed each other how much we care for each other through our actions and I've had some of the best times on my life with them. Because, ultimately:

- whats said between us doesn't have to be clear - just the meaning of it needs to be portrayed through our actions. And this is one of many cases where ‘words’started to lose their importance in my life.

But that’s friendship. What about Love? Are words important with matters of the heart? Well let’s have a look. In the Italian language there are 2 phrases.

‘Ti voglio bene, and ‘Ti amo’. Apparently, you only say the first phrase at the beginning of a relationship, or to family. The second is used for a ‘more serious level of love, only for your one true love.’

Well in the English language, we only have one phrase. And that’s I love you. We say it to friends, family and lovers. Radio presenters say it to people who call in to request a song!!!

 Does this mean in Italy people love others in different ways, on different levels, and in England we all love each other the same, friends, family, strangers alike?

Actually love is something that can never be truly defined in words, so somewhere along the line we have forgotten the importance of the actual feeling itself and given it lots of words and phrases depending on how scared we are to let the other person know how you really feel.

This particular fear can actually be very frustrating and can cause alot of misunderstandings sometimes. For example, Two people are together. They caress each other, they laugh together, they care about each other. They make love together. But still, the word love is not said between them, when quite clearly, it’s there. And it’s when one of them plucks up the courage to say, you know what, I love you. Does love start at that very moment that the person said those words?. Did it start when that person started saying ‘I love that person’ in their own head , but not telling it to anyone?

Absolutely not.  Love is energy which is neither created or destroyed. It was always there. And it will always be there. You only have to look into the eyes of a person that you love to realize that, as it is the eyes that are the window to the soul, and reflects everything a person is truly feeling.

Some of us talk to much. But are still afraid of words that label our feelings

Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to answer the simple question of, ‘how do you feel?’  It’s because, when it comes to emotions, words are actually only labels of that emotion. not the real emotion itself.

Now what about if someone says, ‘show me how you feel’. Suddenly it becomes a lot easier to portray your emotions. You know exactly what to do. And the other person can understand better as well. Because words are just a form of communication for what actually exists.

Italian, English, Japanese. We use these languages as tools for communication, the words, accents and sounds sound different, but effectively they are all used to translate our thoughts in order to be able to communicate.

But the pure scientific fact that actually most of our communication is through the way we move our bodies is an extra reason realise of the unimportance of words in our lives.

Don't get me wrong, words can of course help people immensely. Hence why I write this blog, to inspire people with words But you must use these words to create your own experiences based on these concepts, only then will you truly understand what I’m writing to you.

 And also, words can be used for fun and for laughter. This is a tool that i will not deny. and the more laughter there is the world, the better.  

But let me tell you, if i could just stick to demonstrating goodness in the world, and how easy it is to inspire, to love, and provide as much aid as i can through only my actions, in which people would watch, learn, and repeat themselves, then not only would it be more effective, but i would also be able to reach as many hearts as i wanted in the world, no matter what language they spoke.

Next time you are in a situation that you cannot explain using words, maybe try to stop talking. and stop thinking. Just Do. Just Feel. Just Be If we do this, we will be able to understand each other, just as animals do. By a look in the eye, a sixth sense in your soul, a heart positively vibrating in your ribcage. This is emotion. This is real. This is how to live a life, alive, instead of wasting each day with words and then realising only when were on our death bed, that all we’ve been doing is labeling our lives away.

Stop speaking. Start doing. And you will see that automatically the things that you desire the most will simply fall into your lap, the people that you love will forever, show you respect and your life will be full of nothing but joy for the rest of your days.

Try it, you’ll only have words to loose :)

Accettazione

'Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery. ' Professor Dumbledore - Harry Potter.

'Why's the weather so bad?'

'Why is he not as interested as I am?'

'Why won't he get back with me?'

'Why can't I get what I WANT!!!!'

These are questions that go through our head and are on constant repeat like a broken down vinyl record. We are always unhappy about something. In fact, we are the only species on the planet that I know of that usually always try to find something that makes us sad and then thinks 'oh poor me' afterwards. Somehow we manage to find some sort of comfort in this self inflicted pain. But this comfort is not only never permanent  but also isnt real either, just a perception of the mind.

We have so much potential to achieve great things in our lives and become inspiring people, creating a much better world to live. But the first thing we need to do is stop running around in circles of pain, self pity, and self destruction.

We often find ourselves in situations that we don't want to be in, or don't like. And of course our first intinct is to take action to change the situation. Some of us have huge amounts of motivation to do just that. And if its within our power to do it, then there is no reason why we shouldn't. If you want something in life, the best thing to do is go out there and get it.

However, there are times when, no matter how hard you try, things just don't seem to go the way you want them to. But some of still choose to swim upstream. But if we look at life like a river and realise that there are some very unexpected things that happen that we have absolutely no control over, then surely the best thing to do is to let the current take you.

The secret to stopping ourselves swimming against the current is actually much more simple then people think. It's a state of mind which can be reached with a little practice. And all it consists of is, complete ACCEPTANCE. Totally surrendering to the outcome of a situation. When you do it, you feel a sense of freedom like no other, and you can't help but smile to yourself.

Let go of the stress, pain and fear in your life, in the past, future and the present moment. You don't have to completely understand the situation, Only remember that

• - The universe is always trying to help you achieve what you want, even in the most unexpected ways. Just be careful what you wish for!
• - With time and patience, ALL wounds are able to heal.
• - With total acceptance, the whole concept of 'having a problem' ceases to exist  And all you are left with is a life full of opportunities instead.

Running into a brick-wall again and again will indeed, without stating the obvious, get you nowhere. But with patience, time, and acceptance, you will realize that turning your back to that brick wall, and turning into a new, unknown destination  will be the best decision you will ever make. You have only to conquer the feel of the unknown to walk down the shaded path.

When you fight the fear, accept by going with the flow, and embrace what life has alternatively provided you, your perspective changes, and suddenly you can see the whole world in front of you, shining, completely at your feet, and infinitely brimming with an indefinite amount of possibilities for you and your life.

Il Potere Di Adesso

This is a revamp of a previous blog which i wrote nearly 2 years ago. I'm hoping this is less self centered, more to the point and more effective for you guys, ready to be translated into Italian. Enjoy :)

There are times in life when you experience something indescribably amazing....... and then usually unexpectedly this feeling is followed by an indescribable amount of emotional pain, which lasts for a very very long time.

But, usually, it’s at this time, when you feel like no one or nothing can lift you back up again, when all is lost, when you are in your deepest, darkest hole that something miraculous happens. A moment of pure magic that forces you back on your feet and makes you realise that, actually life is on your side. It is trying to show you the light, and give you the inspiration you need for self healing to commence again. It’s the good overcoming the evil. It’s the balancing-out in the equation of life. When you spot this little bit of light, it’s then that it’s possible to see your mistake. That the pain that you suffered was in fact, entirely self-created.

The Science

It has been scientifically proven,  that the feeling of sadness in the human brain only lasts around 3 seconds. Who else but our selves can be responsible for prolonging this feeling? Only us. And now I will explain to you how we implement such a destructive way of living upon ourselves.

Because of the negative way we use our mind. It is such a powerful tool, but it is really being used for the wrong reasons. It’s because of this way of thinking that the following happens:

• Every morning we wake up and remind ourselves of the memories that we suffered from before therefore making our bodies re-live the same negative emotions every day.
• We become trapped in the past, not being aware that we are alive now, and therefore not really living.
• We imagine and create situations in the head about what we think might happen, therefore becoming stuck in future.
• We are unhappy because we don’t get what we want. But what we fail to realise is, what we want is something that the mind has created a vision of, and not necessarily what we truly want.
• We are convinced  happiness and peace is something found in external things, objects and even in other people. This is just to fill that hole inside, that again the mind, has labelled 'unhappiness'.

In fact, the mind is an expert at labelling things. Actually, it has a lot to answer for.

What can we do to escape the inevitable downfall of negative thinking?

Step 1

Just like a radio, we can tune out all the noisy negative thoughts from our brainwaves. When this happens, the past and the future suddenly cease to exist. We are left with only 2 things, ourselves in a pure form without misconceptions that are self-created and the present moment. And if we completely surrender to this present moment we can find real peace. That’s the first step. But how do we switch off the noise in our brain? A lot of us find this mission impossible. But the answer is simple. We must do what we love the most. Always. When we do what we love we become drawn to the present moment like a magnet. All of our so called ‘problems and worries’ fade away.

Step 2

It is in this peace where we can realize negative emotion can’t possibly exist. Not when you reach that level of consciousness. The mind created it all.  You have taken the second step without realizing it. You are now not part of your thoughts, but instead you are looking at your own thoughts from an outsiders perspective. It’s from this perspective that you can see how damaging you have been to yourself. And it’s from this position that you can stop the pain being self-inflicted.

Step 3

The 3rd step consists of remaining in that state constantly throughout your life.. With practice, patience and time you can achieve this goal.

How this has effected the world.

• We have been living our lives soley based on our thoughts for a very long time now that we have forgotten how to live with our hearts. We have forgotten how to listen to our instincts to help us make the right decisions in life.
• The mind is also responsible for creating diseases, mentally such as paranoia and depression, and physically because of the negative thoughts sending the wrong chemicals to the body and not making it function properly. 
•  War. Mass Killing. Self Harming. Suicide. Family breakups. Relationship breakups. Loneliness. All created by one main element. Fear. Fear is a state of mind. It derives from negative thinking. If we realise this then so many lives can be saved.

Fear can be eliminated. Unhappiness eradicated. In one moment, see if it is possible to not think of something that has happened in the past, or wonder what will happen in the future, even what will happen in the next 5 minutes. What’s in this moment, this exact moment, that is beautiful?  How is your body feeling in this moment? Look around you, what is beautiful? What is the best thing in this moment for you right now?.......................

.......................... Oh look, I just made your past and future disappear for a second.....
How free did you feel just then?  THAT is the Power of Now.

If you want to find peace, lasting love and happiness, and then inspire others to do the same, first and most importantly, love yourself. Find peace inside of you. Save yourself first and then be the change you wish to see in the world. Switch of the noise in your brain. And surrender to the present moment. It is a present after all J