The Heart Speaks Words That Minds Will Never Write

Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me

Actions speak louder than words

A picture paints a thousand words

People find it strange that some of my friends don’t really speak my mother tongue  and neither do I speak theirs. They use to ask, ‘Maria, but how do you communicate with them?  How is a friendship possible between you, if you can’t speak?’

But the truth is, they are some of the best friends that I could ever dream for. Instead of sitting and chatting all day, we experienced things together. And because we experienced together, we grew so close. We showed each other how much we care for each other through our actions and I've had some of the best times on my life with them. Because, ultimately:

- whats said between us doesn't have to be clear - just the meaning of it needs to be portrayed through our actions. And this is one of many cases where ‘words’started to lose their importance in my life.

But that’s friendship. What about Love? Are words important with matters of the heart? Well let’s have a look. In the Italian language there are 2 phrases.

‘Ti voglio bene, and ‘Ti amo’. Apparently, you only say the first phrase at the beginning of a relationship, or to family. The second is used for a ‘more serious level of love, only for your one true love.’

Well in the English language, we only have one phrase. And that’s I love you. We say it to friends, family and lovers. Radio presenters say it to people who call in to request a song!!!

 Does this mean in Italy people love others in different ways, on different levels, and in England we all love each other the same, friends, family, strangers alike?

Actually love is something that can never be truly defined in words, so somewhere along the line we have forgotten the importance of the actual feeling itself and given it lots of words and phrases depending on how scared we are to let the other person know how you really feel.

This particular fear can actually be very frustrating and can cause alot of misunderstandings sometimes. For example, Two people are together. They caress each other, they laugh together, they care about each other. They make love together. But still, the word love is not said between them, when quite clearly, it’s there. And it’s when one of them plucks up the courage to say, you know what, I love you. Does love start at that very moment that the person said those words?. Did it start when that person started saying ‘I love that person’ in their own head , but not telling it to anyone?

Absolutely not.  Love is energy which is neither created or destroyed. It was always there. And it will always be there. You only have to look into the eyes of a person that you love to realize that, as it is the eyes that are the window to the soul, and reflects everything a person is truly feeling.

Some of us talk to much. But are still afraid of words that label our feelings

Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to answer the simple question of, ‘how do you feel?’  It’s because, when it comes to emotions, words are actually only labels of that emotion. not the real emotion itself.

Now what about if someone says, ‘show me how you feel’. Suddenly it becomes a lot easier to portray your emotions. You know exactly what to do. And the other person can understand better as well. Because words are just a form of communication for what actually exists.

Italian, English, Japanese. We use these languages as tools for communication, the words, accents and sounds sound different, but effectively they are all used to translate our thoughts in order to be able to communicate.

But the pure scientific fact that actually most of our communication is through the way we move our bodies is an extra reason realise of the unimportance of words in our lives.

Don't get me wrong, words can of course help people immensely. Hence why I write this blog, to inspire people with words But you must use these words to create your own experiences based on these concepts, only then will you truly understand what I’m writing to you.

 And also, words can be used for fun and for laughter. This is a tool that i will not deny. and the more laughter there is the world, the better.  

But let me tell you, if i could just stick to demonstrating goodness in the world, and how easy it is to inspire, to love, and provide as much aid as i can through only my actions, in which people would watch, learn, and repeat themselves, then not only would it be more effective, but i would also be able to reach as many hearts as i wanted in the world, no matter what language they spoke.

Next time you are in a situation that you cannot explain using words, maybe try to stop talking. and stop thinking. Just Do. Just Feel. Just Be If we do this, we will be able to understand each other, just as animals do. By a look in the eye, a sixth sense in your soul, a heart positively vibrating in your ribcage. This is emotion. This is real. This is how to live a life, alive, instead of wasting each day with words and then realising only when were on our death bed, that all we’ve been doing is labeling our lives away.

Stop speaking. Start doing. And you will see that automatically the things that you desire the most will simply fall into your lap, the people that you love will forever, show you respect and your life will be full of nothing but joy for the rest of your days.

Try it, you’ll only have words to loose :)