Accettazione

'Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery. ' Professor Dumbledore - Harry Potter.

'Why's the weather so bad?'

'Why is he not as interested as I am?'

'Why won't he get back with me?'

'Why can't I get what I WANT!!!!'

These are questions that go through our head and are on constant repeat like a broken down vinyl record. We are always unhappy about something. In fact, we are the only species on the planet that I know of that usually always try to find something that makes us sad and then thinks 'oh poor me' afterwards. Somehow we manage to find some sort of comfort in this self inflicted pain. But this comfort is not only never permanent  but also isnt real either, just a perception of the mind.

We have so much potential to achieve great things in our lives and become inspiring people, creating a much better world to live. But the first thing we need to do is stop running around in circles of pain, self pity, and self destruction.

We often find ourselves in situations that we don't want to be in, or don't like. And of course our first intinct is to take action to change the situation. Some of us have huge amounts of motivation to do just that. And if its within our power to do it, then there is no reason why we shouldn't. If you want something in life, the best thing to do is go out there and get it.

However, there are times when, no matter how hard you try, things just don't seem to go the way you want them to. But some of still choose to swim upstream. But if we look at life like a river and realise that there are some very unexpected things that happen that we have absolutely no control over, then surely the best thing to do is to let the current take you.

The secret to stopping ourselves swimming against the current is actually much more simple then people think. It's a state of mind which can be reached with a little practice. And all it consists of is, complete ACCEPTANCE. Totally surrendering to the outcome of a situation. When you do it, you feel a sense of freedom like no other, and you can't help but smile to yourself.

Let go of the stress, pain and fear in your life, in the past, future and the present moment. You don't have to completely understand the situation, Only remember that

• - The universe is always trying to help you achieve what you want, even in the most unexpected ways. Just be careful what you wish for!
• - With time and patience, ALL wounds are able to heal.
• - With total acceptance, the whole concept of 'having a problem' ceases to exist  And all you are left with is a life full of opportunities instead.

Running into a brick-wall again and again will indeed, without stating the obvious, get you nowhere. But with patience, time, and acceptance, you will realize that turning your back to that brick wall, and turning into a new, unknown destination  will be the best decision you will ever make. You have only to conquer the feel of the unknown to walk down the shaded path.

When you fight the fear, accept by going with the flow, and embrace what life has alternatively provided you, your perspective changes, and suddenly you can see the whole world in front of you, shining, completely at your feet, and infinitely brimming with an indefinite amount of possibilities for you and your life.

Il Potere Di Adesso

This is a revamp of a previous blog which i wrote nearly 2 years ago. I'm hoping this is less self centered, more to the point and more effective for you guys, ready to be translated into Italian. Enjoy :)

There are times in life when you experience something indescribably amazing....... and then usually unexpectedly this feeling is followed by an indescribable amount of emotional pain, which lasts for a very very long time.

But, usually, it’s at this time, when you feel like no one or nothing can lift you back up again, when all is lost, when you are in your deepest, darkest hole that something miraculous happens. A moment of pure magic that forces you back on your feet and makes you realise that, actually life is on your side. It is trying to show you the light, and give you the inspiration you need for self healing to commence again. It’s the good overcoming the evil. It’s the balancing-out in the equation of life. When you spot this little bit of light, it’s then that it’s possible to see your mistake. That the pain that you suffered was in fact, entirely self-created.

The Science

It has been scientifically proven,  that the feeling of sadness in the human brain only lasts around 3 seconds. Who else but our selves can be responsible for prolonging this feeling? Only us. And now I will explain to you how we implement such a destructive way of living upon ourselves.

Because of the negative way we use our mind. It is such a powerful tool, but it is really being used for the wrong reasons. It’s because of this way of thinking that the following happens:

• Every morning we wake up and remind ourselves of the memories that we suffered from before therefore making our bodies re-live the same negative emotions every day.
• We become trapped in the past, not being aware that we are alive now, and therefore not really living.
• We imagine and create situations in the head about what we think might happen, therefore becoming stuck in future.
• We are unhappy because we don’t get what we want. But what we fail to realise is, what we want is something that the mind has created a vision of, and not necessarily what we truly want.
• We are convinced  happiness and peace is something found in external things, objects and even in other people. This is just to fill that hole inside, that again the mind, has labelled 'unhappiness'.

In fact, the mind is an expert at labelling things. Actually, it has a lot to answer for.

What can we do to escape the inevitable downfall of negative thinking?

Step 1

Just like a radio, we can tune out all the noisy negative thoughts from our brainwaves. When this happens, the past and the future suddenly cease to exist. We are left with only 2 things, ourselves in a pure form without misconceptions that are self-created and the present moment. And if we completely surrender to this present moment we can find real peace. That’s the first step. But how do we switch off the noise in our brain? A lot of us find this mission impossible. But the answer is simple. We must do what we love the most. Always. When we do what we love we become drawn to the present moment like a magnet. All of our so called ‘problems and worries’ fade away.

Step 2

It is in this peace where we can realize negative emotion can’t possibly exist. Not when you reach that level of consciousness. The mind created it all.  You have taken the second step without realizing it. You are now not part of your thoughts, but instead you are looking at your own thoughts from an outsiders perspective. It’s from this perspective that you can see how damaging you have been to yourself. And it’s from this position that you can stop the pain being self-inflicted.

Step 3

The 3rd step consists of remaining in that state constantly throughout your life.. With practice, patience and time you can achieve this goal.

How this has effected the world.

• We have been living our lives soley based on our thoughts for a very long time now that we have forgotten how to live with our hearts. We have forgotten how to listen to our instincts to help us make the right decisions in life.
• The mind is also responsible for creating diseases, mentally such as paranoia and depression, and physically because of the negative thoughts sending the wrong chemicals to the body and not making it function properly. 
•  War. Mass Killing. Self Harming. Suicide. Family breakups. Relationship breakups. Loneliness. All created by one main element. Fear. Fear is a state of mind. It derives from negative thinking. If we realise this then so many lives can be saved.

Fear can be eliminated. Unhappiness eradicated. In one moment, see if it is possible to not think of something that has happened in the past, or wonder what will happen in the future, even what will happen in the next 5 minutes. What’s in this moment, this exact moment, that is beautiful?  How is your body feeling in this moment? Look around you, what is beautiful? What is the best thing in this moment for you right now?.......................

.......................... Oh look, I just made your past and future disappear for a second.....
How free did you feel just then?  THAT is the Power of Now.

If you want to find peace, lasting love and happiness, and then inspire others to do the same, first and most importantly, love yourself. Find peace inside of you. Save yourself first and then be the change you wish to see in the world. Switch of the noise in your brain. And surrender to the present moment. It is a present after all J

La Verita

Tre cose non possono essere nascoste a lungo: 

il sole, la luna e la verità. 

(Buddha)

One lie, two lies, three lies, four...... eventually there will be a war.

And so the ultimate question is, why do we lie?  When I try to simplify the concept in my mind, it all boils down to two main solid reasons.

The first - The hunger for power and control.

 We see a situation. We see that it's not going the way that one would have hoped it to go.  And we feel with one simple action of telling a lie, we can change the direction that the situation is heading towards. Because, somewhere, along the line of history, we, as human beings, decided that instead of being led by life's river flow, leading us down the beautiful stream of destiny, we wanted to have power and control over our journey instead. To build dams in order to  create the illusion that actually we can have whatever we want. These dams are effectively the lies that people tell in their life to try to control a situation to suit their needs.

The second - To protect yourself, and others from harm. Because the Truth can hurt.

This is something that has developed because of the evil that has spread across the world (which probably also derived from lies to begin with). As long as lies make the world go around, even the most truthful people must still find a way to survive and protect themselves from them. And so we tell lies to stay safe.

And both of these reasons are linked to one main cause of nearly everything bad that exists in this world - Fear. We are scared. And so we lie but what we don't know is Fear is the sole source of evil itself. It's from Fear that every negative emotion grows and manifests.

At the time it seems so simple to tell one small simple lie. Who would it harm? But things start becoming more difficult, when in order to keep the first lie you have to tell a second and a third and so on. But a thing that is so false cannot exist on the world for too long, something as pure as mother nature is not able to handle it. And so even after telling so many lies, no matter what happens or what you do to try and prevent it, the truth is always revealed, usually in a very explosive manner. But  for this to happen regularly is not healthy for anyone's life on this Earth.

All of this can be eradicated. We can stop the lies from ruling the world, causing so much unnecessary destruction. And this is how.

The first thing to accomplish is to stop lying to yourself. If its easier, write down on paper any truths that you have been hiding from yourself. Once they have been written on paper, you cannot go back to telling yourself lies, because the truth is in front of you, black and white. The next step is telling the truth to others, and to keep telling the truth which will be much easier after being truthful to yourself, and you will suddenly feel a sense of freedom like no other. The benefits that you will receive from it will be more rewarding than you have ever dreamed. By being a truthful person you can live a life full of clarity without confusion, happiness that's long lasting and receive respect from others who will also give you a life time of trust and security  And most importantly,  you will open a door of  a constant flow of love to your life.

Get rid of the fear, and get rid of the lies, within yourself, and within your life. Even if you make a promise to some one with a truthful intention, without carrying out this intention still makes it a lie and is still damaging to your life and others. Try as hard as you can to to be a 'man' or 'woman of your word' and the negativity in your life will slip away, opening a window to so many positive opportunities and experiences.

And now, genuinely, I promise you this with all my heart -  the truth will set you free.

Condividere

I was inspired today by someone special to write about what I think about sharing. I was asked to do it in Italian to practice the language. I will do, but for now, I wrote this from the depths of my heart. I hope it can be enjoyed. 

'Hey, that's mine, Nooo, that's your's. You can't touch that it doesn't belong to you.

Possession. It is such a strange concept. Where did it come from? When I try to really think about the source of possession  I become lost inside my own thoughts. And that's when I suddenly realise, if I'm becoming lost in my thoughts, that can only mean one thing - possession is yet another state of mind which us, as human beings, have yet again created and are now completely engulfed by in our society, and in our every day lives.

So who is possessive? Animals, babies, plants, any other living thing on this planet don't have this concept. It must be something that we, as human beings, are brought up in, in this crazy nonsense world. 

If it's not a natural emotion or state of being, then it is very unhealthy for us to practice because it is the mind that's controlling you and not your feelings. 

And so, I close my eyes and try to feel what the most natural thing to do is with my belongings, without involving my noisy thoughts. And then suddenly I feel this strong need to give. Not only to give, but to share.

Sharing. We have forgotten how important a simply act of sharing can be. We have forgotten how strong of an effect such a simple act of sharing can have on our lives, in other lives, and eventually the profound effect it can have on the entire world. 

In the end, all living beings on this earth are one. We have all come from the same source of energy. This source of energy we call Love. God. It has many names.

When we start to possess, this is what I think happens.

Love is pushed away. Our source is forgotten. When the love is pushed away and the source is forgotten, we become separated from it. From everything in the world. we being to feel alone, alienated.  Loneliness starts to form inside of you, like an illness, and starts to grow stronger and stronger, until it completely absorbs your soul. You start to feel alone in a room full of crowded people. Or even when you are surrounded by people that love you. Eventually some people cannot live with it and end their poor lives just to stop such a horrid feeling.

That's when I start thinking about my travels as a child. India is such a magic place. Most people there have nothing. But the little that they do have, they share. Whole families share one room. The little food they eat is shared equally between them. They share their clothes, and most importantly of all, they share their time. They have so little, but when you see them, they are always smiling. Their happiness is contagious. The effect that is has on you is just incredible. 

The West have so much to learn. We have too much, and we keep it all to ourselves. Is the situation hopeless? No. Actually, recently, because of new technology, I believe we are learning, slowly but surely, how to share again. How to share things that make people happy. Music, videos, or even just inspirational quotes that has the power to change someones feelings from sad to happy in a moment. 

Ladies and gentlemen, this is the power of the internet. We are on the correct path again, through digital means. Facebook, Youtube, even blogger.com. So much can be shared, from just copying and pasting a link. So much difference can be made, because such a wide audience can be reached. 

So next time you are browsing Facebook, Youtube or any other social networking sites, and you see/hear something that makes you smile, click that magic word in blue. The magic word that is 'Share'. And make YOUR difference in the world. You never know how much of an effect that one magic click has had on someone else's life.

l'universo trova spazio dentro me......

So wow its been too long since i let go of all my emotions on here. Life just gets more and more crazy and its quite wierd to know that im too busy to just take an hour of my life out to blurt everything out.

But ive decided that it is really time now. before I overspill which is probably not very healthy

So I guess I SHOULD be talking about how I grew to hate the materialistic parts of my previous job and started to realise how messed up the music industry is now, and that I know Im not quite ready for it yet.

Or I SHOULD bet talking about how I went about changing my whole career path in just 9 months, gained two different qualifications, lived in two other places to eventually acheive living abroad (which was my ultimate goal.

Or I SHOULD be talking about how amazing it is that I achieved this goal, in 9 months and am now living in the passionate affectionate country that is Italy  i'm in a job where I constantly help people learn all day in an effective and individual way.

Or I SHOULD be talking about how amazing it feels to be expressing my feelings with words in another toungue and how amazing it feels to be utilizing my brain everyday and learn something new on a constant basis, broadening my understanding of language and culture every single day.

Or I REALLY SHOULD be talking about the extremely hard decision that I made before I came to Italy, to part ways with the man I love, which was an extremely sacrificial decision and which he cannot accept or even try to understand still which is making my life a heck lot difficult then it should be right now.

But no. I don't want to talk about any of these things. All these things, crazily enough I think I can just about handle. I trust in life too much to worry about it al. Ive followed my heart every single step of the way and so there is no need to dwell on it.

No ladies and gentleman, believe it or not, the only thing I want to talk to you today about is -  new found Love. Are you surprised  I didn't think so. Its the one thing in life that is nearly impossible to understand handle and deal with without alot of thinking and patience and maturity. 

In the past I have fallen in love, and in order to deal with my emotions I have told the story on here. Maybe its good aswell because it is a way of preserving the story, just in case there are details I have forgotten. But the past was different. Living with someone, or working with someone, or being best friends with someone for 2 years and eventually realising I love them have been a few of the situations.

But now crazy things are happening, so fast... and it is proving my theory of love even more, that it is always there within  people, it exists inside the connections between people that is realized at the first time we ever meet that person.

My life seems to be one love story after another. Does this make me a confused person who doesn't know what love is? I don't think so. I think it confirms the fact that I have figured out what it's all about. And there is one particular phrase, inside my favorite poem, that can explain it just a little.

' Do not be cynical about love, because in face of despair and ardirity, it is as perennial as grass'

But the reality is, there are no words to describe it. The heart speaks words the mind will never write.

Of course love comes again and again, because it is pure energy, never created, destroyed, just going round and round and round, showing itself in different forms, in different people but in fact in the end its all from the same source.

I want to take this opportunity to thank the universe. 

- Thank you for making me feel the immensity of new found love many times in my life, again and again and showing me the power it has.

-Thank you for making me have the intuition to realise where it exsists again and again and being so prone to it and also providing me proof that i am right to follow my feelings.

- And thank you for giving me the strength every single time to deal with everything that comes after it, all the good and the bad things that happen, all the rejection and the relief.

Thank you, and I am always eternally grateful for everything you have placed in my life, no matter what happens and no matter if i do let in bad emotions into my life sometimes and let them take over. I know its wrong and I realise this quite quickly and change it as soon as possible.

I will return your goodness, with more love and compassion for the world, forever giving, and forever loving. And I will teach others to do the same. 

Thats another story told. A dopo, untill the next one, good night x

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Wheres the Summer? Inside your self healing soul of course....

 Below is a blog that was accidently written in two parts. The first is something that I jotted down hitting an all time low, trying to find some kind of outlet for my feelings. Its me trying to persuade myself with my own advice, trying to find a light. The second part is 4/5 days later, where I followed the advice I gave myelf in the first part, and also followed my heart blindly. Please read below to realise your potential of self healing, the power of time and the magic of trusting your heart even through the darkest, rainiest summer that one can ever remember. It may bring the sun back into your life.


Part 1

According to scientists, the feeling of sadness only lasts for 3 seconds.... why the hell would I allow it to consume my mind for a whole night? A few days? a week? Putting my soul under constant suffering. What is it doing to my age? My energy? The positive opportunies that await me? Only god knows.... or I do know. Its blocking everything, it blocks the energy to live a long life with a happy attitude, pathing your paths to success and glory.


Is it OK to be sad for a day? I mean, its only a day right. Wrong. It all counts. It all adds up, at the end, you wont even have the time to regret. Somewhere, in that day that you are sad, are so many things to be happy about it. The fact that you can get up and dance whenever you want. The fact that the sun is shining in your face. The fact that you are loved, so immensely. And the fact that you have a choice........


Happiness IS a choice. If you notice that you are unhappy with your work, or your relationship, these are all things that can be changed. Realise that you have the power to change and always will. And if it is a slow moving change, the inbetween bits of live can always be lived happily. It is YOUR choice.


Sometimes decisions are hard to make. I know that when your stuck in a whirl of sadness it is almost impossible to get yourself to do anything about it. It is almost like some sick addiction to the feeling. None of this sounds right, or even human but we still do it to ourselves. What are we looking for? And do most of turely want to change, or do they become comfortable because it is means they dont have to veer towards the unknown?


Im fighting, im fighting, im fighting. An endless battle, but I know that soon there will be moments, much better than this, there always have been and there always will be. Im not scared of what I have to lose or sacrafice, because they are both parts of life that you have to go through.


It does take a while to recover though, after youve been to very very dark places in your head. My heart acchess for sooooo long the next day and its very hard to put a brave smile on. but not impossible. Find all the possible resources to make you happy, and when the time is right, make the right decisions to make sure their are less chances of something like that happeneing again.

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Part 2

I think ive won the battle. Im in the middle of trying to change what I am not happy about. Ive been surrounded by friends. And ive done some hard manual labour. After clearing out all of the negativity in my head, I filled my soul with magic, by listening to music, reading the right words, and seeing new places. I feel revitalised. Like, whatever happens in the next week, I will be completely and utterly happy with.

Suffering is a part of human exsistence. I will not blame myself for what I put myself through, because absolutley everyone, suffers. Its the acceptance of this very fact, that it happens and it is a part of our lives whether we like it or not, is what opens up the path back to happiness and a state of peaceful well being. We all have the power of this acceptance. It is whether we actually want it or not that will decide on whether you will find a more permantant contentness. Good luck my friends, your happiness is in your hands.

Drip drop....drip drop.... bang!

My last post ended with anything is possible. My first blog of 2012 and im here to tell you that the impossible has happened. and is still happening. And this has provided me with enough prove to figure out, that it will always happen for the rest of my life.

I showed a friend a book around a year ago. This friend didnt speak much english, so I breifly tried to describe what it was about in very basic language, i basically said - no past, no future, only now. and now is the best.

He looked at me with disinterest. I didnt see him for a long while after that. A few weeks ago, i receievd a message from him. He told me he had started reading a book which he thinks the authoer is one of my favourites and it has completely transformed his life. He said he was the happiest he has ever been and that it is something and it is a happiness that will last. Boy did i get the shivers.

My cousen recently came back into my life. Found out where i was living and decided to spend some time with me at the weekends. We dont do much. il take him out of course, fun is compulsory. but il cook alot and make sure hes ok. didnt think much of it really, i mean hes fam. But i also recieved a message from recently, saying that staying here brings so much happiness in his life, he just feels great being in my home. Now im shivering and in a state of shock...

A guy from the bar i work at. always felt he had a lovely auora but didnt really talk much as i dont get many shifts there.There was a time tho that i noticed a sadness in his eyes. couldnt do much about it without seeming like a weirdo. but fate decided to get us talking on the net. problems blurted out like they had been locked up for a long time. i came back with only ever positive responses. Not really thinking about it, and to be honest expecting to be ignored soon because there are alot of people that i meet and try and help that actually dont want the positivity.. By the end of the day, i got a message from him that he had just had a complete change around, and new jobs had been offered. he said he thought it was me and the positive energy id been giving him all day. By this point i was proper freaked out at myself......

What is it that makes the ripple travel accross the calm waters?

The small unimportant things that you do. The ones that have no meaning at the time. The ones that your heart tells you to do for no reason. The ones without the intention of anything in return.

I think there is something really important about realising what your actions will eventually result in. And even more important to have the patience to wait for the effects to be seen. It makes me appreciate how magical and impossible life really is. and if you dont embrace the magic of life then your not truely living.

How are you able to really see each ripple and its meaning, in the murky waters that is the current state of the world?

Heightened Awareness. Switching of the world in your head and absorbing the atmosphere and the enviornment is around you.

In order to see the effects of your actions, you must realise the potential of connections between two people. This is a skill we all have but have forgotten how to use.

When i meet people for the first time i can automatically tell if i am connected to that person. If i am, then life eventually makes them a much bigger part in my life, and you end up being a big part in theirs.
But i know there are allot of people who feel these connections and are scared of them and so try to pretend they dont exsist.

Its because they dont understand. People fear and avoid what they cant comprehend.

Its also the admittance of the connection being there. In the end the connection is the stem of the energy of love. Because people cannot accept that they are efectively in love with everyone they get along with and can have a good chinwag with. Because of the way we have distorted the meaning of love.

But why stop the energy flow? why imbalance the love in the world by pretending its not there? Surely Its an unnecessary blockage and  thats exactly whats caused most of the spiritual destruction on the earth.

I embrace these connections. I obviously know the limits but the connections are tehre for a reason. and the more i embrace them, the more i am aware of the energy flow between people and how beautiful it is, and the more i become aware of this, the more i am seeing positive results of actions in which once upon a time, i thought were completely meaningless.

Be aware, be open and most important of all, be present. You have so much to give to the world, and the world has undescribable, incomprehensible and impossible amounts to give back to you. Just make sure at that time, you are ready  to receieve it :)

When the years are collected
I pray that we are regretless
You and I the connected
You and I and the blood and the bone