This too will pass.....

Ying - Yang

Fear - Courage

Joy - Loneliness

Boredom  -Excitement

Love - Suffering

What is one of these concepts without the other? Can any of these exist without it's counterpart?

Without fear, courage wouldn't exist, because the very act of courage is not to stop being scared, but to face your fear. 

Without those moments of solitude, how would we have the time to collect our thoughts and appreciate the people we spend time with in our lives? How would we have a positive effect in the lives of our love ones if we didn't have the time alone to think about how to make them happy?

And when is it when we feel the most enthusiastic or excited? What brings the butterflies to your stomach? Without the state of mind of 'waiting' or 'being bored', how will we have the time to build the anticipation for enthusiasm or excitement?

And suffering? I hear some of you say, what on earth is the point in that???? Will we ever rid the world of it? Well, aslong as their is loss, there will always be suffering. But Love is sufferings faithful partner. You have to let a wave of suffering, or a loss, pass into you and through you, to realize love and wonderful happenings are right behind , waiting for you to experience pure joy again in all its glory. It's only when we suffer the most that we long for love the most, and it then comes knocking at your door.

But of course, for us, especially this day and age, this has become very difficult to comprehend. We get stuck inside the dark negative concepts and never see the light  at the end of the tunnel. But if you don't believe that the positive counter part  is only round the corner, you won't be able to see it. It will pass you by without you noticing anything. And if you had your eyes close, in your mind it would have never even existed. 

And so the puzzle that remains is, how do we learn  to open our hearts to have complete faith in the worlds balance?

4  magic words 

This too will pass.

When we are bored, alone, scared or suffering, always believe that what ever your feeling it is ONLY  a phase. A passing time. Believe that no matter what, it has to change. In fact, it WILL change. The universe is constantly changing, from the position of each beautiful star in the sky, to the countless species of birds that migrate during the winter, moving their home and their life to a different location. Whatever your feeling, there is only one true thing that is real about it - that one day, it will pass.

But the magic doesn't stop there. What about the best moments in life? Where the joy is beyond what you can comprehend? When walking or running has transformed into flying  through the clouds? Will this 4 word phrase is just as important in these happy times as well. Say these words when you are happy and you will realise the importance of those moments. And suddenly you will do everything in your power to make them even better, creating the best moments of your life, because you know, like everything else, those moments will also pass.

Put it in your journal. Write it in your diary. Enter it onto the screensaver of your mobile phone. If you can see these words and read them everyday, in ever situation, it will guarantee to make you smile to yourself and allow anything that you want in your life to become possible.

Just from this small piece of knowledge, knowing everything will pass can give you so much peace in your life, your heart and your soul.

Amore

'I love you, because all the loves in the world are like different rivers flowing into the same lake, where they meet and are transformed into a single love that becomes rain and blesses the earth.' P.Coelho

But what is love? Unfortunately we have over-complicated this question far too much, and have all been left very confused by the concept of 'being in love'.

Some people say:

' It's when you can't stop thinking about that person.'

 But don't you think that sounds more like obsession?

Others say:

'When you love someone, they should do what you tell them to do and be who you want them to be'

Doesn't that sound a little like possessiveness?

So being in love is all about being possessive and obsessive.  It just doesn't sound right. Because it's from these two concepts that other negative emotions are formed. In particular Anger, Jealousy and Hatred.

So when so when your 'in love' like above and your soul is eventually full of all this negativity, the question changes from 'What is Love' to 'Where on earth has Love gone?' And once we are tired of feeling all of these emotions, over a period of time we start to 'fall out of love' and end relationships because there's no sense in carrying on.

The Science

The important thing we have forgotten is that Love isn't actually an emotion. Emotions are created in the brain from our thoughts and the brain transmits the signals in order for certain chemicals to be released into the body that makes us feel a certain way. Anger, jealousy  hatred, envy, sadness are all negative emotions created in the brain.

But Love is not an emotion and it is not created in the brain. It is an energy, in its purest form which gives life to all positive emotions, such as hope, happiness, joy, relief, contentedness  Without the energy of Love, non of these emotions can grow and be manifested.

So if Love is an energy, then it is a fact of science that 'Falling in and out of love'  is a false concept. Because according to science, all energy can never be created or destroyed, only changed into different forms. And when we fully embrace this energy with all of our soul, it becomes one of the most powerful forces known to existence.

Love has the power to transform. To heal, to change the planet, to rid all evil and to save the world.

How do we fully manifest the energy of Love?

First we must learn how to demolish  the ever-growing layers of negative emotion. One by one, brick by brick, it can be completely eradicated. Here's how:
Clear your mind, and start the demolition:

The Demolition

Take away Anger

You'll be left with Jealousy

Rip apart Jealousy

Possessiveness will remain

Dispose of possessiveness

Only Attachment will conquer

Clear all of your attachments

A powerful realization  occurs

That all of the above derived from one source, Pure Fear. The sole reason for every mistake made by Human Kind. People are always frightened. It doesn't have to be this way. People don't have to suffer. Fight the fear and rid it completely from your life.

When all of the above has been stripped away, there remains only a void, a healthy empty space inside of you. That is the moment when you embrace loves energy and let it fill every corner of your soul. With the Love for:

- all people on this Earth

- The birds, the trees, the mountains and all of mother natures gifts

- The infinity beauty that exists within the stars

- The healing power of the sun.

- Your life and YOURSELF in moments of solitude.

- The miracles that happen everyday in this world.

- The silences in between the craziness.

Let it grow inside of you and then spread it. Pour it into others, friends, family and strangers, into your work, into your smiles and laughter, into your words until your life is fully positively brimming with it.

Love......

- Even your enemies. Because Love is without reason.

- Not only your family, but anybody that shows you kindness of any kind.  Because Love is not blood.

- Your ex-lovers, no matter how things ended with that person.  Because even the action of letting go of that person is an act of Love, Love is not attachment, it's acceptance, it's sacrifice.

- That person you only met once but immediately felt a strong connection for. Because Love IS the special connection between two people, which can be incredibly powerful and intense, and which should never be feared, only ever embraced!

- The people that life mysteriously and unexpectedly guides into your arms, no matter what phase of life you are in, or whether you think you are ready for love or not. Because Love is destiny.

How I Love

Now I know this sounds crazy, but I am always in Love. And it's not because I crave affection or fear the darkness in solitude. It's because I can feel it all around me, and I've opened my heart up to receive it completely. 

It's because I have no boundaries in my heart that, when I meet someone that I have a strong connection with for the first time, I immediately know it's Love. I do not fear the rejection, or the loss of that Love, because Love can never be lost or found - it's always there. And so I'm not scared to tell people I Love them. 

Life is too short to keep the words 'I love you' locked in our hearts. (P.Coelho) But they are also only words, so don't forget the importance of demonstrating how you feel as well. And when you demonstrate, give love, but do so without the expectation of receiving. 

Love is an act of faith, not an exchange. (P.Coelho)

Love is being. Love is living. Love is the source of everything good that exists in your life and in the universe. Embrace it. Spread it. Be it.

The Heart Speaks Words That Minds Will Never Write

Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me

Actions speak louder than words

A picture paints a thousand words

People find it strange that some of my friends don’t really speak my mother tongue  and neither do I speak theirs. They use to ask, ‘Maria, but how do you communicate with them?  How is a friendship possible between you, if you can’t speak?’

But the truth is, they are some of the best friends that I could ever dream for. Instead of sitting and chatting all day, we experienced things together. And because we experienced together, we grew so close. We showed each other how much we care for each other through our actions and I've had some of the best times on my life with them. Because, ultimately:

- whats said between us doesn't have to be clear - just the meaning of it needs to be portrayed through our actions. And this is one of many cases where ‘words’started to lose their importance in my life.

But that’s friendship. What about Love? Are words important with matters of the heart? Well let’s have a look. In the Italian language there are 2 phrases.

‘Ti voglio bene, and ‘Ti amo’. Apparently, you only say the first phrase at the beginning of a relationship, or to family. The second is used for a ‘more serious level of love, only for your one true love.’

Well in the English language, we only have one phrase. And that’s I love you. We say it to friends, family and lovers. Radio presenters say it to people who call in to request a song!!!

 Does this mean in Italy people love others in different ways, on different levels, and in England we all love each other the same, friends, family, strangers alike?

Actually love is something that can never be truly defined in words, so somewhere along the line we have forgotten the importance of the actual feeling itself and given it lots of words and phrases depending on how scared we are to let the other person know how you really feel.

This particular fear can actually be very frustrating and can cause alot of misunderstandings sometimes. For example, Two people are together. They caress each other, they laugh together, they care about each other. They make love together. But still, the word love is not said between them, when quite clearly, it’s there. And it’s when one of them plucks up the courage to say, you know what, I love you. Does love start at that very moment that the person said those words?. Did it start when that person started saying ‘I love that person’ in their own head , but not telling it to anyone?

Absolutely not.  Love is energy which is neither created or destroyed. It was always there. And it will always be there. You only have to look into the eyes of a person that you love to realize that, as it is the eyes that are the window to the soul, and reflects everything a person is truly feeling.

Some of us talk to much. But are still afraid of words that label our feelings

Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to answer the simple question of, ‘how do you feel?’  It’s because, when it comes to emotions, words are actually only labels of that emotion. not the real emotion itself.

Now what about if someone says, ‘show me how you feel’. Suddenly it becomes a lot easier to portray your emotions. You know exactly what to do. And the other person can understand better as well. Because words are just a form of communication for what actually exists.

Italian, English, Japanese. We use these languages as tools for communication, the words, accents and sounds sound different, but effectively they are all used to translate our thoughts in order to be able to communicate.

But the pure scientific fact that actually most of our communication is through the way we move our bodies is an extra reason realise of the unimportance of words in our lives.

Don't get me wrong, words can of course help people immensely. Hence why I write this blog, to inspire people with words But you must use these words to create your own experiences based on these concepts, only then will you truly understand what I’m writing to you.

 And also, words can be used for fun and for laughter. This is a tool that i will not deny. and the more laughter there is the world, the better.  

But let me tell you, if i could just stick to demonstrating goodness in the world, and how easy it is to inspire, to love, and provide as much aid as i can through only my actions, in which people would watch, learn, and repeat themselves, then not only would it be more effective, but i would also be able to reach as many hearts as i wanted in the world, no matter what language they spoke.

Next time you are in a situation that you cannot explain using words, maybe try to stop talking. and stop thinking. Just Do. Just Feel. Just Be If we do this, we will be able to understand each other, just as animals do. By a look in the eye, a sixth sense in your soul, a heart positively vibrating in your ribcage. This is emotion. This is real. This is how to live a life, alive, instead of wasting each day with words and then realising only when were on our death bed, that all we’ve been doing is labeling our lives away.

Stop speaking. Start doing. And you will see that automatically the things that you desire the most will simply fall into your lap, the people that you love will forever, show you respect and your life will be full of nothing but joy for the rest of your days.

Try it, you’ll only have words to loose :)

Accettazione

'Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery. ' Professor Dumbledore - Harry Potter.

'Why's the weather so bad?'

'Why is he not as interested as I am?'

'Why won't he get back with me?'

'Why can't I get what I WANT!!!!'

These are questions that go through our head and are on constant repeat like a broken down vinyl record. We are always unhappy about something. In fact, we are the only species on the planet that I know of that usually always try to find something that makes us sad and then thinks 'oh poor me' afterwards. Somehow we manage to find some sort of comfort in this self inflicted pain. But this comfort is not only never permanent  but also isnt real either, just a perception of the mind.

We have so much potential to achieve great things in our lives and become inspiring people, creating a much better world to live. But the first thing we need to do is stop running around in circles of pain, self pity, and self destruction.

We often find ourselves in situations that we don't want to be in, or don't like. And of course our first intinct is to take action to change the situation. Some of us have huge amounts of motivation to do just that. And if its within our power to do it, then there is no reason why we shouldn't. If you want something in life, the best thing to do is go out there and get it.

However, there are times when, no matter how hard you try, things just don't seem to go the way you want them to. But some of still choose to swim upstream. But if we look at life like a river and realise that there are some very unexpected things that happen that we have absolutely no control over, then surely the best thing to do is to let the current take you.

The secret to stopping ourselves swimming against the current is actually much more simple then people think. It's a state of mind which can be reached with a little practice. And all it consists of is, complete ACCEPTANCE. Totally surrendering to the outcome of a situation. When you do it, you feel a sense of freedom like no other, and you can't help but smile to yourself.

Let go of the stress, pain and fear in your life, in the past, future and the present moment. You don't have to completely understand the situation, Only remember that

• - The universe is always trying to help you achieve what you want, even in the most unexpected ways. Just be careful what you wish for!
• - With time and patience, ALL wounds are able to heal.
• - With total acceptance, the whole concept of 'having a problem' ceases to exist  And all you are left with is a life full of opportunities instead.

Running into a brick-wall again and again will indeed, without stating the obvious, get you nowhere. But with patience, time, and acceptance, you will realize that turning your back to that brick wall, and turning into a new, unknown destination  will be the best decision you will ever make. You have only to conquer the feel of the unknown to walk down the shaded path.

When you fight the fear, accept by going with the flow, and embrace what life has alternatively provided you, your perspective changes, and suddenly you can see the whole world in front of you, shining, completely at your feet, and infinitely brimming with an indefinite amount of possibilities for you and your life.

Il Potere Di Adesso

This is a revamp of a previous blog which i wrote nearly 2 years ago. I'm hoping this is less self centered, more to the point and more effective for you guys, ready to be translated into Italian. Enjoy :)

There are times in life when you experience something indescribably amazing....... and then usually unexpectedly this feeling is followed by an indescribable amount of emotional pain, which lasts for a very very long time.

But, usually, it’s at this time, when you feel like no one or nothing can lift you back up again, when all is lost, when you are in your deepest, darkest hole that something miraculous happens. A moment of pure magic that forces you back on your feet and makes you realise that, actually life is on your side. It is trying to show you the light, and give you the inspiration you need for self healing to commence again. It’s the good overcoming the evil. It’s the balancing-out in the equation of life. When you spot this little bit of light, it’s then that it’s possible to see your mistake. That the pain that you suffered was in fact, entirely self-created.

The Science

It has been scientifically proven,  that the feeling of sadness in the human brain only lasts around 3 seconds. Who else but our selves can be responsible for prolonging this feeling? Only us. And now I will explain to you how we implement such a destructive way of living upon ourselves.

Because of the negative way we use our mind. It is such a powerful tool, but it is really being used for the wrong reasons. It’s because of this way of thinking that the following happens:

• Every morning we wake up and remind ourselves of the memories that we suffered from before therefore making our bodies re-live the same negative emotions every day.
• We become trapped in the past, not being aware that we are alive now, and therefore not really living.
• We imagine and create situations in the head about what we think might happen, therefore becoming stuck in future.
• We are unhappy because we don’t get what we want. But what we fail to realise is, what we want is something that the mind has created a vision of, and not necessarily what we truly want.
• We are convinced  happiness and peace is something found in external things, objects and even in other people. This is just to fill that hole inside, that again the mind, has labelled 'unhappiness'.

In fact, the mind is an expert at labelling things. Actually, it has a lot to answer for.

What can we do to escape the inevitable downfall of negative thinking?

Step 1

Just like a radio, we can tune out all the noisy negative thoughts from our brainwaves. When this happens, the past and the future suddenly cease to exist. We are left with only 2 things, ourselves in a pure form without misconceptions that are self-created and the present moment. And if we completely surrender to this present moment we can find real peace. That’s the first step. But how do we switch off the noise in our brain? A lot of us find this mission impossible. But the answer is simple. We must do what we love the most. Always. When we do what we love we become drawn to the present moment like a magnet. All of our so called ‘problems and worries’ fade away.

Step 2

It is in this peace where we can realize negative emotion can’t possibly exist. Not when you reach that level of consciousness. The mind created it all.  You have taken the second step without realizing it. You are now not part of your thoughts, but instead you are looking at your own thoughts from an outsiders perspective. It’s from this perspective that you can see how damaging you have been to yourself. And it’s from this position that you can stop the pain being self-inflicted.

Step 3

The 3rd step consists of remaining in that state constantly throughout your life.. With practice, patience and time you can achieve this goal.

How this has effected the world.

• We have been living our lives soley based on our thoughts for a very long time now that we have forgotten how to live with our hearts. We have forgotten how to listen to our instincts to help us make the right decisions in life.
• The mind is also responsible for creating diseases, mentally such as paranoia and depression, and physically because of the negative thoughts sending the wrong chemicals to the body and not making it function properly. 
•  War. Mass Killing. Self Harming. Suicide. Family breakups. Relationship breakups. Loneliness. All created by one main element. Fear. Fear is a state of mind. It derives from negative thinking. If we realise this then so many lives can be saved.

Fear can be eliminated. Unhappiness eradicated. In one moment, see if it is possible to not think of something that has happened in the past, or wonder what will happen in the future, even what will happen in the next 5 minutes. What’s in this moment, this exact moment, that is beautiful?  How is your body feeling in this moment? Look around you, what is beautiful? What is the best thing in this moment for you right now?.......................

.......................... Oh look, I just made your past and future disappear for a second.....
How free did you feel just then?  THAT is the Power of Now.

If you want to find peace, lasting love and happiness, and then inspire others to do the same, first and most importantly, love yourself. Find peace inside of you. Save yourself first and then be the change you wish to see in the world. Switch of the noise in your brain. And surrender to the present moment. It is a present after all J

La Verita

Tre cose non possono essere nascoste a lungo: 

il sole, la luna e la verità. 

(Buddha)

One lie, two lies, three lies, four...... eventually there will be a war.

And so the ultimate question is, why do we lie?  When I try to simplify the concept in my mind, it all boils down to two main solid reasons.

The first - The hunger for power and control.

 We see a situation. We see that it's not going the way that one would have hoped it to go.  And we feel with one simple action of telling a lie, we can change the direction that the situation is heading towards. Because, somewhere, along the line of history, we, as human beings, decided that instead of being led by life's river flow, leading us down the beautiful stream of destiny, we wanted to have power and control over our journey instead. To build dams in order to  create the illusion that actually we can have whatever we want. These dams are effectively the lies that people tell in their life to try to control a situation to suit their needs.

The second - To protect yourself, and others from harm. Because the Truth can hurt.

This is something that has developed because of the evil that has spread across the world (which probably also derived from lies to begin with). As long as lies make the world go around, even the most truthful people must still find a way to survive and protect themselves from them. And so we tell lies to stay safe.

And both of these reasons are linked to one main cause of nearly everything bad that exists in this world - Fear. We are scared. And so we lie but what we don't know is Fear is the sole source of evil itself. It's from Fear that every negative emotion grows and manifests.

At the time it seems so simple to tell one small simple lie. Who would it harm? But things start becoming more difficult, when in order to keep the first lie you have to tell a second and a third and so on. But a thing that is so false cannot exist on the world for too long, something as pure as mother nature is not able to handle it. And so even after telling so many lies, no matter what happens or what you do to try and prevent it, the truth is always revealed, usually in a very explosive manner. But  for this to happen regularly is not healthy for anyone's life on this Earth.

All of this can be eradicated. We can stop the lies from ruling the world, causing so much unnecessary destruction. And this is how.

The first thing to accomplish is to stop lying to yourself. If its easier, write down on paper any truths that you have been hiding from yourself. Once they have been written on paper, you cannot go back to telling yourself lies, because the truth is in front of you, black and white. The next step is telling the truth to others, and to keep telling the truth which will be much easier after being truthful to yourself, and you will suddenly feel a sense of freedom like no other. The benefits that you will receive from it will be more rewarding than you have ever dreamed. By being a truthful person you can live a life full of clarity without confusion, happiness that's long lasting and receive respect from others who will also give you a life time of trust and security  And most importantly,  you will open a door of  a constant flow of love to your life.

Get rid of the fear, and get rid of the lies, within yourself, and within your life. Even if you make a promise to some one with a truthful intention, without carrying out this intention still makes it a lie and is still damaging to your life and others. Try as hard as you can to to be a 'man' or 'woman of your word' and the negativity in your life will slip away, opening a window to so many positive opportunities and experiences.

And now, genuinely, I promise you this with all my heart -  the truth will set you free.

Condividere

I was inspired today by someone special to write about what I think about sharing. I was asked to do it in Italian to practice the language. I will do, but for now, I wrote this from the depths of my heart. I hope it can be enjoyed. 

'Hey, that's mine, Nooo, that's your's. You can't touch that it doesn't belong to you.

Possession. It is such a strange concept. Where did it come from? When I try to really think about the source of possession  I become lost inside my own thoughts. And that's when I suddenly realise, if I'm becoming lost in my thoughts, that can only mean one thing - possession is yet another state of mind which us, as human beings, have yet again created and are now completely engulfed by in our society, and in our every day lives.

So who is possessive? Animals, babies, plants, any other living thing on this planet don't have this concept. It must be something that we, as human beings, are brought up in, in this crazy nonsense world. 

If it's not a natural emotion or state of being, then it is very unhealthy for us to practice because it is the mind that's controlling you and not your feelings. 

And so, I close my eyes and try to feel what the most natural thing to do is with my belongings, without involving my noisy thoughts. And then suddenly I feel this strong need to give. Not only to give, but to share.

Sharing. We have forgotten how important a simply act of sharing can be. We have forgotten how strong of an effect such a simple act of sharing can have on our lives, in other lives, and eventually the profound effect it can have on the entire world. 

In the end, all living beings on this earth are one. We have all come from the same source of energy. This source of energy we call Love. God. It has many names.

When we start to possess, this is what I think happens.

Love is pushed away. Our source is forgotten. When the love is pushed away and the source is forgotten, we become separated from it. From everything in the world. we being to feel alone, alienated.  Loneliness starts to form inside of you, like an illness, and starts to grow stronger and stronger, until it completely absorbs your soul. You start to feel alone in a room full of crowded people. Or even when you are surrounded by people that love you. Eventually some people cannot live with it and end their poor lives just to stop such a horrid feeling.

That's when I start thinking about my travels as a child. India is such a magic place. Most people there have nothing. But the little that they do have, they share. Whole families share one room. The little food they eat is shared equally between them. They share their clothes, and most importantly of all, they share their time. They have so little, but when you see them, they are always smiling. Their happiness is contagious. The effect that is has on you is just incredible. 

The West have so much to learn. We have too much, and we keep it all to ourselves. Is the situation hopeless? No. Actually, recently, because of new technology, I believe we are learning, slowly but surely, how to share again. How to share things that make people happy. Music, videos, or even just inspirational quotes that has the power to change someones feelings from sad to happy in a moment. 

Ladies and gentlemen, this is the power of the internet. We are on the correct path again, through digital means. Facebook, Youtube, even blogger.com. So much can be shared, from just copying and pasting a link. So much difference can be made, because such a wide audience can be reached. 

So next time you are browsing Facebook, Youtube or any other social networking sites, and you see/hear something that makes you smile, click that magic word in blue. The magic word that is 'Share'. And make YOUR difference in the world. You never know how much of an effect that one magic click has had on someone else's life.